Don’t Settle For Less: Why Loneliness Shouldn’t Dictate Your Relationship Standards
- Mabongi P Sabelo

- Sep 3, 2025
- 3 min read
Loneliness is a universal human emotion that can affect anyone, regardless of their relationship status or social circle. It's a feeling of deep emotional pain, isolation, and disconnection from others. But loneliness can also be a transformative and empowering experience that allows us to tap into our inner strength, creativity, and resilience.
The Dangers of Settling
When we're feeling lonely, it can be tempting to settle for someone who doesn't truly meet our needs or align with our values. We might convince ourselves that "someone is better than no one" or that "I'll just make it work." But settling for someone who isn't right for us can lead to resentment, frustration, and even more loneliness in the long run.
Why You Deserve Better
You deserve someone who respects and values you, who shares your passions and interests, and who makes you feel seen and heard. You deserve someone who is your partner, your friend, and your confidant. Don't settle for anything less.
Men can't believe women are single by choice, because men AREN'T single by choice.
The Power of Loneliness
While loneliness can be a painful experience, it can also be a powerful catalyst for growth, creativity, and self-discovery. Here are a few ways that loneliness can be a positive force in our lives:
Increased self-awareness: Loneliness can give us the space and time to reflect on our thoughts, feelings, and desires. This increased self-awareness can help us develop a stronger sense of identity and purpose.
Creativity and inspiration: Loneliness can be a powerful spark for creativity and inspiration. Many artists, writers, and musicians have credited loneliness with inspiring some of their most innovative and groundbreaking work.
Resilience and resourcefulness: Loneliness can help us develop resilience and resourcefulness. When we're forced to rely on ourselves, we can discover inner strengths and abilities that we never knew we had.
How to Avoid Loneliness
While loneliness can be a transformative experience, it's still important to maintain social connections and avoid feelings of isolation. Here are a few ways to avoid loneliness:
Stay connected with friends and family: Make time for social activities, schedule regular check-ins, and prioritise building strong relationships.
Join a community or group: Find a group that aligns with your interests and passions, and engage with others who share your values.
Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental health by engaging in activities that nourish and fulfil you.
The Importance of Maintaining Your Standards
When it comes to dating, it's essential to maintain your standards and not settle for someone who doesn't meet your needs. Here are a few reasons why:
You deserve respect: You deserve someone who respects your boundaries, values, and needs.
You deserve happiness: You deserve someone who makes you happy and fulfilled, not someone who drains your energy or makes you feel unhappy.
You deserve a healthy relationship: You deserve someone who is willing to work with you to build a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
For The Real Lovers
Am I crazy for wanting more?
For wanting a love without judgment, a love of acceptance, a love that’s real.
I want a provider, a protector of my heart, body and soul.
Someone who is genuinely unapologetically into ME!
By embracing the power of loneliness and maintaining our standards in dating, we can avoid settling for less and find a relationship that truly nourishes and fulfills us.
Thanks for reading,
xoxo
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